Friday, 23 June 2006

"just friends"

I didn't want to talk to the guy that kissed me, because I had already been through the "we're just friends" convo, and it had obviously not worked, so after he had sms'ed me things like "did you have fun on sat?" , "where are you? I need to see you?" "Have you gone back to uni? I'll come see you." etc, and I had not replied, he finally sent something like 'I'm coming ot see you now'. Of course something I did Not want to happen. So I replied saying that if we can't be friends, then there's not much to talk about, also that I like somebody else. It may be harsh, but I had to say something... then he sent me a message saying mushy things like "our friendship means the world to me" and "i only kissed you because I was in the mood", etc. I showed Ainsley (my sister) and she thinks he just said all that because I said I liked somebody else.
*sigh*
Whatever. The point is is that now he thinks we're back to being friends... but I'm not sure I can be friends with him, not if I'm paranoid about him fancying me. What if I got drunk one day and he was there? I don't think I'd feel safe. that's not normal when you're "just friends", is it?

On a better note... I've finished my uni exams for the semester. (much relief.)

I'll write something better later.
Love, Hil.

Comments:
Hmm, not sure what to say exactly about the guy you mention. Although my he sounds, um, persistent....

Your sister's interpretation is one possible motivation for his replies - funny thing about words (especially in written form or when delivered with the "poker face" approach) - motivation (intent) is often left out as we don't get to see all those other cues such as body language, inflection, etc.

"I'm going to kill you." - am I joking around and laughing and teasing, or am I deadly serious.... You'd have to message me back and ask point blank - Did you mean you are taking my life or did you mean I am such a goof you will find a way to tease me to no end...

Of course if you are avoiding talking to him point blank... then motivation is kinda hard to figure out (for both of you)?????? But if worded about the whole situation, sometimes things (people) left alone do go away... :-/

YAY on finishing exams hope all went well with those. :)
 
oooo that was a goofy slip - I meant worried about the whole situation not worded - haha - oh life and the way I stumble through it makes me laugh sometimes as does my dorky fingers... sorry
 
I understood what you meant. I get dorky fingers too. (am so going to use "dorky fingers" more often by the way.)
 
Congrats on finishing another semester. Now you are one semester closer to your goal. Feels good, doesn't it?

As far as your gentleman friend goes (and perhaps I should use that term more lightly), it sounds to me like his recanting is a product of pride, more than anything else. 'No' is a terrible word for the ego. I suspect that the friendship you are speaking of will wither somewhat now that the chance of anything more has been eliminated.

Just as a final note, I would hope that you wouldn't get drunk enough to confuse your friend and your lover. Don't expect a guy to say no just because you did in the past. When a man is looking for a sign of interest, it doesn't have to be big and neon, just vaguely justifiable. I'm not saying it's right.

Until next time...
 
Friend is a four letter word.

How much of a friend was this "guy"?

If he was a really true friend from way back, don't necessarily write him off because he made a fucked up mood. But if he"s just a guy you were nice to, and has really gotten the wrong idea *as much as he tries to convince you hasn't) - you don't have to feel obligated to put up with it.

"Life: Harsh but Fair" - this line was stolen from The Ferals
 
Can you believe, despite rewriting that comment - I made the same 'dorky fingering' twice.

"don't write him off because a fucked up move" (it takes a bit of courage to risk ruining a relationship to start a new one, it takes more maturity to recover if you fuck it up)
 
Michael, I wish I were more mature.

but then reality seeps in the cracks, and I'm young again.

oh dear.

-Hil.
 
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